Dre Writes: Those Five People

I am currently reading Tyrese Gibson's self-help book How to Get Out of Your Own Way in the book club over at FemmesWithBenefits and I must say I have been learning a lot.  One important lesson he's discussed that I have been pondering lately is his concept of "your five people".  Who are those five people, you ask?  These are the five people you spend time with the most.  Tyrese tells us in the book that we are a composite of the five people we hang around the most.  Seeing as how I keep a small circle and I am getting adjusted to being a wife, I felt like I wasn't really spending time with anyone all the time, other than my husband and children.  But then again, I thought about the friends and associates I visit the most when I'm home, I talk to on the phone the most, and basically have any type of interaction with.  After taking inventory of five people, I wondered if I truly was representative of the five people I interact with the most.

For the most part, I am happy with the people who surround me.  I have a good support system and people who encourage me to set goals and pursue my dreams.  However, there are the occasional guest appearances from those who like drama, love to rob you of your joy, and envy anyone doing more than they are (aka debbie downer, negative nancy, miss drama queen, and the like).  I think I can do away with the ties I have to people who only like to gossip and are never working on anything productive.  Besides, it has been said that birds of a feather flock together and if you lie down with dogs you will rise with fleas (shout out to Benjamin Franklin).  In no way, do I want to be associated with anything negative that would block blessings and good fortune in my life.  In short, I guess it's safe to say I need to make sure I am surrounded by the people that are where I am spiritually and mentally or are where I want to be.  

So who are your five people and are they representative of who you are?  If not, are you willing to let them go?

If you would like to join in on the reading and discussion go check out the lovely ladies over at FemmesWithBenefits!

The Prayer of Jabez

The Prayer of Jabez is a small, yet powerful prayer found in the Old Testament of the Bible.  I use to meditate on it regularly, as it hangs in the hallway of my home and always has.  But it seems as though over the last year or so I have lost sight of its powerful message.  I know you are wondering how could someone walk past something every day and not notice it?  I guess the same could be said for taking part in all of the blessings God bestows upon us, yet neglect to tell Him thank you.  It wasn't until my mother called me on Sunday morning urging me to tune in to Joel Osteen's program on USA that the Prayer of Jabez was brought back to my attention.

Joel Osteen informed viewers on Sunday morning's episode that something BIG was coming our way.  Mom had been telling me this for quite some time, but hearing Osteen's words helped me really believe it was so.  He then began to talk about praying big prayers, reminding us that our God has endless resources and is mighty enough to supply all of our wants and needs.  Hearing this message made me wonder to myself, why wasn't I praying big prayers anymore?  I remember a time when I was looking for a better job and I prayed big.  I remember when I wanted to move to a different city and I prayed big.  Just like Jabez, I constantly asked God to enlarge my territory.  After those blessings came, it seems that I had become complacent.  

I remember when I used to dream big.  Now I find myself just praying to stay afloat.  And truthfully, that is likely why I was successfully doing just that-staying afloat.  So after watching those 30 minutes of inspiration, I began to reassess the things I really wanted in life.  I took Osteen's advice and decided to make room for increase.  I am going to meditate more on my word, pray my big dreams, and pray that God blesses me in abundance so much so that I become a blessing to others.

Here is a picture of the prayer's scroll I have in my hallway (1 Chronicles 4:10).

So my question to you guys is are you praying big?  Have you asked God to bless that dream you have yet?  What do you think of Jabez's prayer?

Monday Dose of Diva: I Feel For You

This Monday's dose of diva is dedicated to none other than the lovely Chaka Khan.  It was Miss Chaka Khan who was responsible for teaching us divas the power of womanhood with her hit I'm Every Woman. later remade by Whitney Houston.  Fellow diva Mary J. Blige has also remade a couple of Khan's songs as well as recorded a duo with her.  Khan's iconic, soulful voice and big curly mane makes her image come to mind when one thinks of the word diva.  Check out my favorite Chaka Khan song I Feel For You.

Eva the Diva and the "Payneful Rescue"

Did you guys catch Wednesday's episode of Tyler Perry's House of Payne?  Well if you didn't, you missed a treat!  It was such an emotionally-charged episode, I was on the edge of my chair holding back tears.  Literally.

To give a quick recap, Miranda, Calvin Jr. and Christian were rescued from a house-fire by CJ.  As a result of the fire, Calvin Jr. lies comatose in the hospital fighting for his life.  Inevitably, the Payne family was on edge.  What really surprised me about the episode though, was how stellar Eva's performance was.  Remember that Eva plays Tracy, Calvin Jr's mother.  Talk about a mad mommy!  Her acting was so spot on, I could feel her anger and frustration.  As a mother of two myself, I felt my heart bleeding for her, as if the episode was happening in living color.  Even though she was being nasty with all the others in the hospital scene, one could not help but hurt for her.  She was fleshing out before an audience a terrified woman experiencing a mother's worse nightmare, and was doing so with such precision!  Eva the Diva darling, I give  you a round of applause for your role in such a dramatic and emotional episode. In fact, this episode was probably the best one I have seen.  Not only was Eva on point with the acting, everyone else followed suit as well.  It just seemed like such a "real" situation and the crew pulled it off seamlessly, in my opinion.

And Mrs. Ella put down a prayer so heavy, I felt myself saying amen at the end!

I don't want to give up all the details because some of you may not have seen it yet.  But for those of you that have seen it, what did you think?  And for those of you who haven't, search for it on the internet (or you may just have to wait for tbs.com to post it).  Share your thoughts!

Show Me a Good Time: Miami Style

Recently hubby and I took a vacation in Miami, FL as a delayed honeymoon/birthday celebration.  Needless to say, we enjoyed Memorial Day weekend there and can't wait to go back soon.  Here are some pics I wanted to share with you all.  I didn't wanna make the post too pic-heavy so there are only a few.

View of the pool

It wouldn't be me if I didn't photograph a meal lol

The pool at night

About to take a boat ride outside of Bayside Marketplace

Fisher Island

Remember Tony Montana's house in Scarface?  That's it!

I <3 Marsha Ambrosious!




Hubby ready to start the day

Me ready to head out!

Too bad my batteries died too soon to catch Keri Hilson, Chris Brown, Trey Songz (gasp!) and Drake's performances.  All in all it was a fun-filled weekend!

Ten Personal Commitments: 31 Day Reset Day 30 **Retro Post**

Do you guys remember when I was sharing my experiences with Rosetta Thurman's 31 Day Reset on her Happy Black Woman website?  Well I was revisiting the 31 Day Reset and decided to share with you guys an entry I had been keeping in my journal in an attempt to breathe life back into my goals.  On Day 30 we were asked to make no more than ten personal commitments to ourselves in our quest for self-improvement.  Here are mine:
  1. I will spend more time developing a personal relationship with my Savior,  Jesus Christ.
  2. I will invest more time, energy, and education in my children to ensure they continue to thrive, be happy, and well-rounded.
  3. I will stop wasting so much time on social networks (sigh).
  4. I will go to church more often to fellowship and receive spiritual nourishment.
  5. I will put more effort into making my dream life a reality.
  6. I will exercise more often and take better care of my body.
  7. I will never stop writing.  I will try to write something every day.
  8. I will do one thing to pursue my own happiness weekly (or what I refer to as "self-care").
  9. I will devote time monthly to give back to my community.
  10. I will make a habit of pursuing lifelong learning by reading and exposing myself to new experiences.
I strongly suggest you guys check out Day 30 for yourself as well as signing up for the free 31 Day Reset program.  Also, feel free to share your 10 commitments with me in the comments!

Keri Hilson Inspired FOTD

I was inspired by Vonnie over at Socialite Dreams to participate in a celebrity inspired makeup challenge featuring Keri Hilson.  This was my first time trying to recreate a celebrity makeup look so I thought I would share it with you guys.

The Inspiration:

The Result:

Products Used:
mark. Good Riddance Hook Up Concealer in Medium Deep
Avon Perfect Wear Foundation in Toffee
MAC Magically Cool Liquid Powder in Cajun
mark. Good Glowing Blush in Cameo Glow
mark. Glowdacious  Illuminating Powder in Shimmied Up
Avon Glimmersticks in Blackest Black
e.l.f. Cream Eyeliner in Black
mark. Scanda-lash Hook Up Mascara in Black-Lash
e.l.f. Mineral Eyeshadows in Golden and Caffeinated
Avon Ultra Luxury Lip Liner in Wildberry
MAC Ruby Woo Lipstick
Avon Glossy Delight Lipgloss in Luscious Raspberry

e.l.f. products can be purchased at: www.eyeslipsface.com
MAC products can be purchased at: www.maccosmetics.com

To see pics of the items used, check out my youtube video here:

What do you guys think?

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