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15 Things I'm Looking Forward To This Fall

FALL IS FINALLY HERE! Are you as excited about the changing seasons as I am? While it hasn't completely cooled off here in North Carolina, remnants of summer are slowly slipping away. Leaves are falling from the trees and nature is beginning to show off her most cool and rustic hues. 


Seeing nature transform right under my feet reminds me of the things I love the most about fall--sweater weather, festivals, family gatherings, and all the cozy hobbies I enjoy at my leisure.  It is the one season I enjoy spending time in the cool outdoor temps and indoors wrapped up because of the cool temps. I can show up for the world around me by day and cozy up in my favorite blanket with my warm beverages and get lost in a good read by night. Honestly, what's not to love about the fall season? 


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While updating upcoming posts about beauty, fashion, reading, music and upcoming events, I thought it would be cool to once again share a list of the things I'm most looking forward to this season. Read after the jump to check out the 15 things I'm most hype about.

13 Things I'm Looking Forward To This Fall

Are you guys as excited about the fall as I am? Things finally start cooling down here in the south and nature truly begins to show her true colors. Not only do I look forward to the harvest months, I get all geeked about festivals, fairs, and community events around my way. And even if you're not a fan of enjoying the good outdoors, fall is still the perfect season to wrap up in your favorite blanket, grab your beloved warm beverages, and get lost in a good read. What's not to love about the approaching season? 


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As I prepared to write upcoming posts about beauty, fall reading, and upcoming events, I thought it would be cool to join the masses and add a list of the things I'm most looking forward to this season. Read after the jump to check out the 13 things I'm getting hype about.

Things I Left in my Twenties

As some of you may already know, I was welcomed into the 30 Club with open arms recently. And let me tell you, I am excited to be in the number! Honestly, however, I wasn't this hype months ago. See, for the last few months I had been torturing myself with this mental list of things I wanted to accomplish by the age of thirty. There was something about this proverbial list and these phantom expectations that had really been driving me up the wall. Why wasn't I already established in my career? Shouldn't I have accomplished waaaaay more at this point? That's what I had been asking myself repeatedly. I was reading self-help books, hoping to find an answer. I was even reconsidering my education (or seemingly lack thereof). After these never-ending dead-end searches, I finally decided enough was enough. 

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I began to think about a few of my loved ones who were not awarded the opportunity to even see this next decade. I looked in the faces of my smiling children and husband. Then I looked in the mirror and realized I was still here for a purpose. So I decided right then and there to stop lamenting over what I thought should be, and really show my appreciation and gratitude to the Good Lord for keeping me!

When thinking on those things, my arrival to the big 3-0 began to feel different. So in celebration, I spent time with my closest family + friends and spent a lot of time reflecting on what this next milestone in life meant for me. And since I'm such a chronic list maker,  I started typing out a list on my tab in the middle of the night of all the things I'd be leaving in my twenties---not even considering the thought of a blog post or anything... Just some personal things I wanted to really let go of, so I could embrace who I am and who I am becoming. Below are a few of the items from that list....

HELP! I Am Becoming My Mother.

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It's funny how when we are children, we think our parents just don't understand us. Our levels of understanding and comprehending really become challenged when we enter our teenage years. We're in love, we hate school, and our parents are RUINING our lives! Or at least that's what we think during that awkward stage in life. I know I can't speak for everyone, but when I was younger, I felt that my mother couldn't possibly relate to anything I was going through. And because I was so selfish (rightfully so because I didn't know better at the time), I never thought about the fact that once upon a time she was a teen like me. My mama already knew the game. 

Now that I'm an adult, I see where mama was coming from. As an adult, wife, and parent, I can finally relate to the successes and struggles I only saw then from the outside looking in. Not only do I now understand what it means to put the needs of other people before yourself, but I also "get" those awkward situations in which we were both learning about parenthood from each other. So today, I would like to share with you guys five ways I feel as though I  can not only relate to my mom, but ways in which I have completely become her all over again. 

10 Ways to Have a Better Day

Woke up this morning in a rut? Spent the last few weeks feeling like "blah?" If this sounds like you, please know that you are not alone. From time to time, I find myself looking for new ways to pull myself out of a funk. And though I haven't found a way of "getting to happy" in an instant, I have found a few ways to make myself feel better with little to no effort. Continue reading after the jump to check out ten ways I find happiness throughout my day.

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7 Days of Love | Our First Kiss



Today marks the fourth installment of our "7 Days of Love" collaboration. If today is your first day on the blog, the "7 Days of Love" is a week-long collaboration between The Green Eyed Lady Blog, Baby Teems, The Chic SAHM and myself. Since Saturday we've been blogging about love and romance per 7 given prompts. And it's been a blast so far! Today's prompt asks us to recall our first kiss with our husbands. Here goes nothing!

I am going to keep it all the way real with you, ladies. I could not remember our first kiss for the life of me. When I read this prompt, my mind started racing. I calculated the years I've known him. I sifted through the memories of our first encounters. I smiled as I looked back at all of the sweet gestures he did when the relationship was fresh and new. But I could not remember our first kiss. So when we sat down and talked about sweet memories the other night, I asked him could he remember our first kiss. At first, he stared at me puzzled. He thought I was asking a trick question and that he could possibly "get in trouble" if he could not recall the date or time-- sorta like that whole remembering important anniversaries thing. But when he looked in my pitiful brown eyes and saw that I couldn't remember either, I could see that heavy sigh of relief rise from his chest, lol. Neither of us had a clue. So we begin to talk about our early days of getting to know each other. How we used to visit after school and on weekends. And when I remembered that one night he was dropping me off home and "Come to Daddy" by R. Kelly was playing in the Dually, I smiled as I recalled what I thought was our first kiss. 

Now I want to tell you that it was passionate. I want to tell you that I looked into his big beautiful brown eyes and was so enamored by him that we locked lips instantly, like Jason and Lyric did in the movie. "Come to Daddy" spilled loosely from the truck's speakers and all I saw were fireworks after that. That's what I really want to tell you. But because my husband just couldn't let me be great, he said that was not our first kiss. 

He says we were sitting up at his dad's house alone with some raunchy 50 Cent song playing in the background. I didn't even want to hear anymore after he said that, and I told him he was sadly mistaken. I wanted that memory to be a sweet, romantic, and sentimental one. Just imagining him & I all cuddled up on his dad's couch with that horrible song (that I'm not even gonna tell you the name) playing in the background makes me cringe lol. He could be right though. 


But since we deliberated on the issue for what seems like an hour, I grew frustrated. It was starting to feel like that episode of Martin when he and Gina were going back and forth about the night they first met. So for the sake of getting this post done in a timely manner, we thought it would be cool if we talked about our first public kiss. J isn't big on PDA, so we both remember that day perfectly. 

He came to visit me at WSSU for the weekend. It was a warm, late summer afternoon in 2003 and we were looking for things to do. We were both in an unusually great mood. I went from seeing him everyday to not seeing him for weeks, so I was glad to be next to him riding down the highway that day. And since it was so warm out, we decided to go to a local park after having breakfast. I had recently gotten Beyonce's Dangerously in Love CD and I recall "That's How You Like It" playing right before we got out of the car. We walked around the park hand-in-hand, something we had never done prior to that day. I sensed that he was growing more comfortable with me and was slowly beginning to take off his cool.  And I loved it. After walking down the nature trail and talking about some of everything under the sun, we took a seat at a picnic table. Within a few moments of exchanging sweet nothings, we kissed. Right there in the park. With people watching and everything! That was so not like J. But I was miles from "home" and I was sure no one from the "yard" was out at the park that day. And though it was short, simple, and sweet, I'll always remember that day. Though we had been dating for a while, his behavior that day showed me he was no longer afraid to show a softer side of himself. We always look back at that day and smile. And though we did quite a few other things that weekend, those moments at the park always stand out. 

Do you remember your first kiss with your mate?
Tell me all about it in the comments! 

And be sure to check out these beautiful ladies dish about their first kiss!


7 Days of Love | 5 Ways I Keep the Passion in Marriage


Happy Monday, loves! Today is Day 3 of the "7 Days of Love." If you missed the posts from the weekend, "7 Days of Love" is a week-long collaboration between The Chic SAHM, The Green-Eyed Lady Blog, Baby Teems, and myself. During this week, we will be writing about love and romance, per 7 given prompts. Today's prompt asks us how we keep our marriages hot and sexy. Below, I have listed 5 ways I keep the passion burning with mine!

1. COMMUNICATION- Just as I mentioned on Saturday, open communication is a must. When it comes to keeping the passion in our marriages, we have to be able to express our innermost thoughts, desires and expectations with our mates without shame or guilt. If I want to try something different with my spouse, I know I can talk openly and candidly with him without judgment and vice versa. I can also count on my husband to try everything within his power to fulfill those desires. Your spouse has no sure way of knowing how to please you or keep you satisfied if you do not communicate about these things. 

2. PRESERVING MY SEXY- I've always loved that phrase every since I heard Diddy say it in a Proactive commercial. "Preserving your sexy" simply means making sure you are always looking your best. Whether it be keeping my hair nice and neat, my skin glowing and healthy, or my body in top physical fitness (ok, I need to work on this one), I try to always look my personal best. And trust me, you don't have to spend a lot of money to do it. Most of the time, I do my own hair, my own manicures/pedicures, and my own facials. There are many talented vloggers on YouTube that can show you how to do it all! It's totally worth it when I notice the way my husband still looks at me with desire and admiration after all these years :)

3. BUILDING HIS CONFIDENCE- I believe building confidence in my husband really keeps the fire burning in our marriage. Over time,  I have learned to be more vocal in my appreciation of him. When he cooks a dish (though it's rarely) I express how thankful I am and how well of a job he did. When he gets dressed up, I love to tell him how handsome he looks. And with everything he does that I like, I try to always give him positive feedback. Now I know that us women love "brownie points," but I never realized until now how much men enjoy them, too. It makes them want to please us and make us smile even more. And what man doesn't want to feel confident in knowing they are like Superman in the eyes of their wives?

4. DATE NIGHT IN- This is a really great option for hubby and I, as we are not always able to get out and go on dates. Sometimes, when all the kids are asleep, I'll make a special dinner just for him. I'll light candles, and create a very romantic ambiance right at home. If he wants to see a movie, I'll grab something on redbox or find something we haven't seen on Netflix and I'll set the mood for movie-viewing. I try to find a way to recreate anything he would want to do outside of the home, inside the home. That way, we can still spend quality time alone whether we have a sitter or not. And we can always retreat to the bedroom with ease afterwards :)

5. ROLE-PLAYING- Don't get the wrong idea, guys. Role-play is not exclusive to sex. Sometimes it's nice to switch your look or way of doing things up a bit. Those of you that know me well know I like to change my hairstyle quite regularly. And there's something about a new look that thrills my husband. They say that variety is the spice of life, so perhaps he feels like he's getting to know someone new when I change my hair. And since he responds so well to a change in my appearance, I am confident with implementing role-play on an intimate level. To read more about implementing role-playing ideas into your marriage, check out this article from All Women Stalk. Number 2 is definitely tried and true for me, perhaps because that's the role I'm most familiar with in real life. The imagination is a great tool for romance and has really heated things up in my marriage!

 What do you do to keep things 
hot & sexy in your marriage?

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